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“Do or die”, “come what may”, “no ifs no buts”, remember those words? The Prime Minister is down but not out, at least not yet, but he’s got a huge mountain to climb, will he become Britain’s political Incredible Hulk? Tick tock…
There is always a trigger to self-harm, most of the time we fail to recognise these events. If you are supporting someone who self-harms, never judge, condemn or criticise. It is real for them even if you don’t understand why they do it.
Listen, keep an open mind, remember you can make it worse or push them to a cliff edge, your support and understanding is the most important step in their journey to recovery. Once you establish a trust, you will be glad you did, as they get overwhelmed from time to time, they know they can confide in you. Encourage them to see their GP if they haven’t already, it might be a long journey to recovery, but your love and care, most importantly your listening ear and non judgmental support may make all the difference.
Most people go through periods of feeling down for weeks or months, the triggers may vary from one to another, it could be abuse, bullying, grooming, a difficult heartbreak, unhappy relationship, bereavement and so on. Whatever yours is, get ready to dance.
View depression like calories that you want to burn away, the trick is in finding ways to cope and take control of your thoughts and feelings.
Pushing back on negative thoughts and staying positive. It could be useful to consider dancing, singing or playing music, painting or drawing, writing down how you feel, talking about it, going for a walk by the river bank, what ever it takes to make you relaxed. Explore, renew your mind, kick out depression through the door like an unwanted visitor.
Quick question you need to ask yourself everyday – “is my partner’s shot at happiness more or less likely by my presence in their life”? Be honest, if the answer is no – don’t fret yet, you can turn the table albeit easier said than done.
Patience and understanding are two skills you have to learn. The golden rule some say is to always let your partner know how much you care, how much you love him or her. Don’t magnify his or her weaknesses, be quick to throw praise at his or her strength, praise and realistic encouragements are likely to draw your partner towards you rather than away, now that is the last thing you want.
Say a little prayer for him, doesn’t matter if you are not religious, surely you have heard about the power of positive declaration, offer her your heartfelt best wishes in your silent thoughts, pray together, talk about what you both want and make a declaration over them, prayers are simple words you say out loud, sometimes quietly, about what you want to happen, if you believe in a God, that’s fantastic, if you don’t then pray all the same, prayer is one of the tools of a successful and happy relationship. You know if you are not nice to your partner, all you have to do is turn a new leaf, make a difference in your partner’s life, if you don’t, someone else will.
Being a mother is one of the high-ranking status any woman can attain in the society, mothers are highly regarded and it comes with a presumption of societal responsibility.
But the reality is that some don’t enjoy being mothers, others find it hard while it is a set stone for some. Are you a sad mother, do you feel like your life has changed for worse because you have a baby?
It is normal to go through a low patch having to deal with parental responsibilities towards your child(ren) and the challenges that comes with looking after a child, but it is not the end of the world. Try to view happiness as a medicine and choose to be happy mum. Don’t push yourself to live to other people’s expectations, pay attention to good feelings and good times, rare as they may seem just now, they will become frequent and you will reap the benefits of motherhood.
Like all past form of government, democracy, the most favoured and loved form of government since 508 BC appears to be falling apart.From Africa to America, Asia and Europe, you need not look too far.
While African politicians, well at least the majority of them have replaced the fat cat directors that contributed to the great recession over a decade ago. These (fat cat) politicians use the means of the majority to deplete national treasuries without any substantial development to show for it.
The White House houses the most democratic repellent president in the history of American politics.
Hong Kong no longer listens to its people, instead take notes from China, the European Union project undermines democracy in many ways than one, so much so that national sovereignty has been made obsolete. After three years of voting to leave the European Union, British opposition parties have refused to accept the result of a democratic exercise, MPs usurp executive powers by passing into law a surrender bill which has executive function written all over it, their attempt to overturn a democratic referendum did not end there, a letter format was prescribed to the Prime Minister, what an abuse of power, what a disdain for democracy.
A mother’s pain takes every ounce of energy in her, she will do almost anything for her child, such is the reality check on actress Felicity Huffman who was sentenced Friday 13th September to 14 days in prison for her role in the college-admissions cheating scheme, she was found guilty for bribing a college to take in her daughter.
How the mighty fall, the judge ignored her high and wealthy status by adding also a one year of supervised release, 250 hours of community service and a $30,000 fine, the judge is quoted as saying that despite all her advantages, “You took the step of obtaining one more advantage to put your child ahead of others.”
Talking in cheek maybe, but you can read in-between the lines as the Shadow Brexit Secretary plays the game of thrones with Labour’s leadership, you can’t blame him can you, in politics there’s no permanent friend, every politician wants to wear the crown, sometimes at all cost. According to the HuffPost, Starmer thinks “a lot of people” think Jeremy Corbyn’s Labour Party “would do better with a different leader”. Yes Keir stab Corbyn in the back, you’re not the first, certainly won’t be the last.
You’d probably have seen the sign on gates and fences warning you of a ferocious but selectively friendly dog should your luck runs out and you wander into its territory.
But who or what are the “dogs” in your life that you have to become aware of. Are they loved ones, work colleagues, or maybe events which take you to the cliff edge, triggers low mood, anxiety, depression, alcohol and drug abuse? Leaves a huge dent on your mental health. What makes you sad, isolated or the world crippling around you. These are the dogs you have to beware of, they are ferocious, and aggressive, they wield a disdain for your happiness, they will maul you without mercy, when you see the triggers ,run and fly like a butterfly.
The 34-year-old posted a new pic of her and her daughter on instagram. Khloe and her NBA boyfriend Tristan Thompson welcomed True their first child together on April 12 2018
